Cleaning the Vulva & Vagina can Hurt your Health and your Sex Life.

Hey all!

Just a reminder that PeachTalk is the new name of what was formerly EndoGab! You can read about the name change HERE but in short, it was changed to be more inclusive of a variety of vulval-vaginal and pelvic pain disorders that women suffer from, and that impact our sex lives and relationships!

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Now that that’s out of the way, today I want to talk about cleaning the vulva and vagina…more specifically NOT cleaning the vulva and vagina, and what impact this has on our relationships/sex lives.

Before I get up on my soap box, I just want to say that I used to feel VERY self conscious about the way my vagina and vulva smelled. I was under the false impression that I needed to be perfumed and squeaky clean, and I thought that anything less was not only gross, but undesirable. However, over time I learned that this couldn’t be farther from the truth.

Our vulvas and vaginas have very specific ph balances and are SELF-CLEANING. When we use soap, or other substances to “clean” our vaginas and vulvas we are not only disrupting their natural balance by harming the GOOD bacteria that needs to be there to keep us healthy, we’re also opening ourselves up to a world of hurt by causing vaginal/vulval irritation and infections. Our vaginas and vulvas were meant to be “washed” only with water if anything, because of their self cleaning nature and the need to maintain their delicate balance.

What if you feel like you REALLY smell? If you have a truly offensive odor coming from your nether region, there’s a good chance you have an infection going on possibly caused by the disruption in vaginal ph/bacteria. For example, one of the tell tale signs of a bacterial vaginosis infection is a fishy odor (Read more about BV HERE). If you have a funky odor please don’t be afraid to go and see your doctor. It happens to the best of us, and it’s best to treat an infection sooner rather than later so that it doesn’t become more aggressive. I know that it can feel embarrassing, but I assure you your doctor sees infections all of the time and it’s just an unfortunate part of being human.

On the other hand, if you feel like you don’t smell like you WANT to, but you have no infection you may need to consider showing yourself some love by learning to accept your unique scent! Sure, it might be great if our vaginas and vulvas could smell like cupcakes or field of flowers without causing harm, but part of the reason many of us think we should smell perfumed is because we’re constantly bombarded by advertisements telling us how we should look and smell and it’s simply not reality. You may even be surprised to hear that our sexual partners actually LIKE our natural scents and find it arousing (I personally was stunned to hear this from my own spouse!). Okay, maybe despite all of this we STILL want to smell like a plume of cotton candy, but is it worth it to cause irritation, pain, and infection?

It took me a while to come around to being ok with my natural scent, and to no longer be paranoid that my spouse doesn’t like it. Not only is it better for my health, it’s better for our sex life. It is hard to have sex when you’re not secure with how your genitals look or smell, and trying to achieve an unobtainable ideal of a vagina and vulva that smells like a bakery can cause serious irritation and infection, which is something we do NOT want when we have pelvic and vulval-vaginal conditions.

The reason I felt like I should write about this this week, is because not cleaning our vulvas and vaginas seems counter-intuitive despite it being correct, which can cause people to harm their genitals without realizing it, and the second reason is because in our current society I feel like I constantly see pseudo-scientific articles about herbs or other things to put in the vagina, and people peddling this cure and that cure also meant to be inserted in the vagina, and that is dangerous. Please never insert anything into your vagina unless it is prescribed by a knowledgeable and qualified medical practitioner, or unless you know it’s 100% safe. If you’d like to read more about how the vagina is self cleaning and why you shouldn’t use more than water, please read this really awesome and to the point article HERE 

Let me know in the comments if you have any insecurities you think I should write about, or if you have anything at all in regard to sex and relationships with vulval-vaginal pain that you would like me to discuss! In the mean time protect your peach, and love your peach! XO

False: Every woman should do Kegels to keep her vaginal muscles tight.

True: Women may have loose OR tight muscles and if they are already tight or overly tight doing kegels can cause a hypertoned pelvic floor to be WORSE and more painful. Always get evaluated by a pelvic floor therapist if you think you have pelvic floor muscle issues so that you can be guided to the right resources and exercises.

 

 

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2 thoughts on “Cleaning the Vulva & Vagina can Hurt your Health and your Sex Life.

  1. I noticed that no one wants to talk about this but, I do! LOL. I was 61 years old when I finally got the nerve up to ask both my gynaecologist AND a Dermatologist how to clean that area. I was told that NOTHING was to go into the vaginal area and only WATER with either a hand or your wash cloth (not a freakin’ loofah) should be used on the Labia/Vulva (which explains why people can shower in 3 minutes or less). NO SOAP! Yeah, I worry and I cringe because my entire life up until 61, I was soaping everything that I could get soap into except for my vagina. Now…yup…while I still don’t feel “fresh as a daisy” nor, smell like a field of flowers down there, I don’t have any harsh odour and I’ve cut down on water bills as well by trying to flush out the soap I’d lathered up down there that burned so bad it taught me some new dance steps out of pain. I think I invented some new moves as well by doing that. I am still unsure as to what is meant or not meant but, I’ve turned to Dr. Google as well to confirm what the linked article in your piece states. I don’t think I’m hearing wrongly or misinterpreting anything but, only my Gynaecologist knows for sure. LOL ;). HUGS XO

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    1. Thank you for your comment, your humor, and your honesty! 😀 It’s amazing how we can go through life for so long without knowing these kinds of things! Hopefully in the future women won’t feel too shy to talk about it! We’ve all felt silly at one time or another, surely even people who know more than most have their moments of ignorance! I know I certainly have! Thanks again for commenting! XO

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